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If
I hadn't actually seen it happen, I'm not sure I'd believe you if you told me
this ten pound baby was once carried inside my wife. Ten pounds, one ounce
actually. I
was woken up Monday morning, just before 6am to the sounds of Michelle calling
my name and Riley racing down the hall to the bathroom. After a few groggy
misconceptions, I suddenly sat bolt upright, realizing I was in the bed alone
and something wasn't quite right. Finally, after a few long seconds, I answered
back, "Yeah? What's wrong?" Riley
disappeared around the corner into the bathroom at the end of the hall as
Michelle replied in a somewhat nervous voice, "My water just broke." My
feet hit the floor and I was down the hallway in an instant. "What color is it?
Where did it happen? Are you OK?" I bombarded her with the stock questions from
the book as I stepped around Riley and up to Michelle's side. "It's
clear, right here, I'm fine." She answered in quick succession. "I guess I
should call the doctor." We were scheduled to be induced in only three more
hours, so we were a few hours ahead of the game now. Michelle
called and was given an appointment in two hours at the hospital. We had no
idea what was going to happen now, but we assumed since her water broke that
they would admit us and everything would progress smoothly from here. While
Michelle was on the phone, I raced around the house getting dressed, feeding
the dogs, loading her bags into the car and throwing together a nominal
breakfast. We
arrived at the hospital promptly at 8:00am not quite knowing what to expect.
Once at the maternity ward, we were quickly ushered into a labor and delivery
room (LDR) and Michelle was given a hospital gown and told to change. In
some discomfort, Michelle managed to maneuver out of her street clothes and
into the rather revealing hospital gown. She took a moment to get comfortable
on the labor bed before a nurse reentered the room. At her present stage, they
apparently wanted to simply hook her up to the monitor and watch things (baby's
heart rate and mother's contractions) for half an hour or so. The
beds in the LDRs, like the one Michelle was placed in, are actually pretty
versatile. They move in enough directions to put Craftmatic to utter shame.
Nice big and padded handrails snap into place on both sides of the bed, and
when things really get moving, the entire bottom half of the bed gets removed
and two more handgrips fold out from the middle of the bed and stirrups rotate
into position. But
we weren't even close to that point yet. Despite her water having broken,
Michelle was still only having relatively minor contractions. To our surprise,
the doctor explained to us how they like to wait 24 hours before trying to
speed things along even after the water breaks. After about 30 minutes on the
monitor, we were told we could return home and told to come back that afternoon
for another monitoring. If nothing happened before tomorrow morning, they would
start induction at 6:30am Tuesday. So
we went home. Actually, we had dropped the dogs off at my parents' place
earlier in the day, so we stopped by their house, had a nice breakfast of bacon
and eggs and chatted with them for an hour or two before really going home. Our
next appointment was scheduled for 5pm, but around two-thirty, Michelle suddenly
began having horribly painful contractions. They began to speed up and starting
coming every three or four minutes in huge cramping contracting waves. Out of
breath and in pain, Michelle called the doctor's office to try and get her
appointment at the hospital moved up an hour or so. The
receptionist at the office told her she could come into the office and talk to
the doctor. Disappointed at that option and realizing that, at best, we would
only get on the monitors at 5pm either way, we decided to tough things out at
home for the extra hour. With
the contractions coming on regularly and strongly, Michelle and I paced circles
around the first floor of our house, pausing every few minutes to brace in a
doorway and endure another wave of contractions. By 4:30, we were ready to go
to the hospital again. So we threw the dogs in the truck, dropped them off at
my parents' again, and drove up the street to the hospital. This
time, instead of being ushered into an LDR, we were directed into the
monitoring room. In place of the fancy beds and wall full of birthing
equipment, this smaller room simply had two beds side-by-side with a smaller
monitor standing beside each. Michelle was again hooked up to monitor her
contractions, the baby's heart rate, and her blood pressure and we were left
alone to let the tape run. The
monitors spit out a long spool of paper as they record, with a pen, just like a
seismograph recording the vibrations of tectonic plates. Every time a
contraction hits, the needle shoots up the graph paper. As it subsides, the
needle falls back towards the baseline and resumes it's vertical path along the
paper tape. Just
about the time Michelle climbed into the bed and got hooked up to the monitor,
her contractions began to subside. The tape recorded a few random spikes along
its length, but the regular contractions she had been having just minutes prior
ceased to exist. The
doctor came in again, spoke to us a bit about the current state of things, told
us we could come in anytime we needed to before our appointment the following
morning, and, once more to our surprise, sent us back home. We had,
incorrectly, figured that once your water breaks, there's no going home again.
We thought they had to induce you, and immediately, once you had ruptured membranes.
We were wrong. So we stopped by McDonald's on the way home and got ourselves a
nice greasy dinner. Halfway
through her double cheeseburger mini combo, Michelle's face suddenly went white
and she let out a blurting cry. She reached over and grabbed my arm, HARD, and
struggled to stand up from where she was sitting on the couch. She gulped a few
deep swallows of air and managed to cough out a quick "Contraction!" For
the next fifteen minutes, the contractions rolled through, one after another,
every two to three minutes. They were each lasting over 90 seconds, so the
resting period between each was brief and not entirely restful. We managed to
walk upstairs and back before the contractions subsided enough for Michelle to
get a few breaths and attempt to finish her dinner. Ten
minutes later, as she swallowed the last bit of her dinner, they hit again. And
again. And again. They were coming on so strongly that Michelle simply couldn't
move whenever they would start. With tears in her eyes, she would brace herself
with each wave of pain and breath through the peaks, best as she could. After
about twenty minutes of continuous contractions, we began to debate the merits
of going to the hospital early. We had already been sent home twice, so we were
unsure as to whether it was even worth going in again. And then another
contraction hit. Unable to speak and panting heavily in pain, our minds were
made up. We were simply not going to get any sleep here at home, and perhaps
they could even help ease the pain a bit at the hospital. So,
once again, we hopped into the truck, left the dogs at home this time, and
drove as smoothly as possible up to the hospital. It took us a good fifteen
minutes to walk to the elevators and then to the second floor maternity ward.
Every two minutes, another contraction would swell up and hit her like a ton of
bricks and we would simply have to stand wherever we were, Michelle bracing on
my shoulders and breathing as best she could through the pain. We
were offered no fewer than three wheelchairs on the way to the elevator, but
the thought of bending over to sit down was even worse than the contractions,
so we slowly continued on our way. When we finally walked into the maternity
ward, the nurses took one look at Michelle, swung wide the door to LDR#1 and
led us inside. Between
contractions, we managed to get her into another hospital gown and then onto
the adaptable labor and delivery bed. The nurses came in shortly and hooked her
up again to the monitors, adding a pulse monitor for Michelle's finger to the
traditional belts monitoring her belly. Now
that we were officially admitted to the hospital, the doctor came into the room
and was able to examine Michelle to see how far along all of these painful
contractions had progressed things. The news was not exactly what we had
expected. The hours of contractions had only brought Michelle to 2cm dilation.
With the pain she had been in, we had hoped for at least twice that – enough
for an epidural. The
best the doctor could do was an IV for fluid and a shot of Demerol. As the shot
took hold, the nurse reached into the room, lowered the lights, and Michelle
began drifting into sleep in between each contraction. "Hopefully, you'll get
some sleep," the nurse said as she softly closed the door. And
so the night progressed. With each contraction, Michelle would suddenly wake
up, call for me, sleeping fitfully in a lounge chair beside the bed, to watch
the monitor and tell her when it was subsiding, and then fall back to sleep
once it was three quarters done. Every three or four hours, the pain medication
would begin to ease and Michelle would wake from her fitful sleep, rolling
painfully from side to side trying to stay ahead of the contractions. Soon
enough, the nurse would come back in and administer another dose and Michelle
would drift back into her restless contraction-filled sleep. By
morning, the doctor promised they would begin the pitosin around 8am. Pitosin
is used to increase and regulate the intensity and speed of the contractions.
We were hoping that the continuous contractions had pushed things further
along, so when the doctor checked things out just before ordering the pitosin,
we were a bit disappointed to find out Michelle was only 3cm for all that work
and lost sleep. And
then the pitosin started. Even through another shot of Demerol, the
contractions began to come on strong and regular. Soon Michelle was in such
pain through each contraction that she was completely unable to move. The
resting periods between each peak were becoming shorter and shorter and when
the nurses came in to examine her a few hours later, she was almost unable to
even move enough to let them do their job she was so cramped up and in pain. That's
when they decided to call the anesthesiologist. Within a few minutes of their
call, he was in our room with his cart of fun, prepping Michelle's cramping
back for an epidural. After a few careful minutes of prep and a few very still
moments of no movement, Michelle had a catheter running into her back, numbing the
paralyzing pain in her lower half to the level of uncomfortable pressure. Her
pain under control, the doctor began to up the pitosin. Every fifteen minutes,
he would enter the room, increase the speed at which Michelle was getting the
pitosin, inquire how she was doing, and softly close the door as he would
leave. Once an hour, either he or a labor nurse would come in and check
Michelle's progress. The goal, once on pitosin, is at least 1cm every two
hours. By
1pm, even with a maximum dosage of pitosin and the help of the pain medication,
Michelle was only at 5cm. She had been stalled there for nearly three hours and
when the doctor again checked things, he noted that the baby had stopped
descending. He was stuck at the same spot and he simply wasn't moving. "Looks
like we're gong to have to get him out of there," was his comment. And with
that, he stood up, told the nurses to get Michelle prepped and mentioned he'd
see us upstairs in a few minutes. That's
when the real fun began. Suddenly, every nurse on the floor started rushing in
and out of our room. The door was thrown open and propped wide against the
wall. For a brief moment, Michelle and I were left to ourselves as everyone
scrambled to prepare. We reassured each other that everything was going to be
fine and that a C-section was the best option. Then the nurses all rushed back
into the room with a stretcher rolling in between them. By
this point, Michelle had no fewer than six wires and tubes hanging from various
points around her body, so the nurses sorted the rat's nest of cables into some
sense of order and then carefully helped her slide from the LDR bed on the
narrow stretcher. "Do
you have a camera?" the one nurse inquired, looking at me. "Uh,
yeah," I said, eloquently as I rushed across the room and grabbed my camera
from my coat pocket. As
soon as I managed to turn around, they began wheeling Michelle out of the room
and down the hall. I double-stepped it to catch up and then followed them
straight out of maternity, into the elevator and up to the next floor, where
all the operating rooms were. The nurses quickly wheeled her around a few
corners, through a double set of doors and then paused briefly in a short
hallway before another set of doors. "You
go in there," the one nurse ordered me, "change into some scrubs and put on a
hair net. Wait in the waiting room and someone will come get you." The nurses
then opened the next set of doors and pushed Michelle through, leaving me
standing alone in the hall. I
went into the small locker room and soon enough managed to find the supply of
scrubs and hairnets. The anesthesiologist who had put in Michelle's epidural
walked in from another door shortly after me and, as we spoke about fatherhood,
showed me to an empty locker where I could leave my clothes in the meantime. Out
of my street clothes, I wandered into the waiting room down the hall to await
the nurse's call. As I stood in the doorway waiting, I heard an old woman
suddenly laugh from behind me. "Another one, huh?" I
turned and looked at the amused older lady. "Is it that obvious?" I asked her.
I laughed, "I was trying to blend in." She
smiled. "I thought, at first you might be a doctor," she joked with me, "but
you look a bit confused." "Yeah,"
I agreed with her, "I don't think you want me operating on anyone." She laughed
and offered me a seat. Fifteen
minutes later, I was beginning to get a bit nervous. Perhaps they had forgotten
about me. What if no one came and got me? Would anyone remember the father?
Someone must remember the father. One of those nurses, at least, would ask,
"Where's the father?" Dr. Cohen would remember. Michelle, assuming she wasn't
under too much anesthesia, must remember me. Can they do this without the
father? Just
as I went to stand up and ask the waiting room attendant how long it usually
takes them to prepare for a C-section, a woman in scrubs came through the
double doors at the end of the hallway, waving me across the floor. I got up
like a shot and took what felt like three huge steps to clear the thirty feet
between me and the door. The
woman introduced herself as Someone Somebody, an anesthesiologist. A half step
behind her, I followed her through another set of double doors into a sea of
green people. Everyone was dressed in green scrubs as we maneuvered through the
busy crowd. "Get him a mask," she ordered a nurse standing beside a huge metal
sink, "I'm going to see if they're ready for the dad now." While
the nurse quickly instructed me on how to properly wear the mask, the
anesthesiologist cracked open a door to the right of the washing sinks. Inside,
there was a green sea of activity as doctors and nurses and assistants, all
dressed in green surgical scrubs, moved about a central operating table. The
anesthesiologist turned around and motioned towards me, "They're ready for you
now." She swung the door open wide and ushered me in. As
I stepped into the room, the green sea suddenly parted, revealing Michelle,
strapped like a frog to the operating table. Our doctor and an assistant stood
on opposite sides of her abdomen and were focusing intently on a small opening
in the green sheets covering her from the chest down. Someone reached around me
and pulled a small gray stool from beneath the table and set it beside
Michelle's head. "Sit
here," a voice commanded. "Don't touch anything beyond this sheet," it added,
referring to the sheet suspended just below Michelle's neck shielding her view
of the procedure. I
sat down beside Michelle and looked into her eyes. She had a stick-on
thermometer attached to her forehead and an oxygen tube in her nose. I reached
over and grabbed her one hand, strapped wide to the table. Then
I saw smoke. I took my first peek over the curtain as they were opening and
cauterizing the incision. The doctor caught my glance and made an offhand
remark about the smoke. Everyone in the room seemed to respond to his comment
with a slight chuckle as they all monitored their own stations. It was obvious
he was in control of the situation. I
looked back down and stared at Michelle for a while. It must've been a long,
rather odd stare since after what seemed only a few moments, she looked back
into my eyes and told me to speak to her. The
anesthesiologists were already telling her she was doing great and that
everything was going well. I wasn't about to describe what I had been watching
on the other side of the curtain at this moment. So I started telling her of
the old woman in the waiting room. I could tell she wasn't particularly
interested at that moment. But the sound of my voice was really what mattered. As
I was speaking, someone else mentioned that she might begin to feel a little
pressure soon. At that point, the anesthesiologist began feeding several
syringes full of clear fluid into Michelle's line. I turned and looked back
over the curtain, past the machines monitoring her blood pressure and heart
rate. 127/80 and 120, it was exactly the same as she had been all morning in
labor. On
the other side of the curtain, things were really beginning to get serious. I
always had this image of a Cesarean in my mind as a peaceful surgical
procedure. I figured the doctor makes a nice incision, spreads it open using a
set of retractors and simply reaches in and lifts the newborn from the mother's
womb. On the way out, in order to keep the incision as small as possible, I
figured there might be a bit of easy maneuvering of the baby to fit him through
the small opening. At least that's what I had seen on TV. Let's
just say TV leaves out a lot. The
doctor had one hand fully in the opening he had made. While he was obviously
reaching around and trying to maneuver his right hand into position in the
incision, his left hand was at the base of Michelle's ribs. Across the table,
his assistant had both hands on Michelle's midsection. In unison, the two of
them were pushing and squeezing Michelle's abdomen in order to work the baby's
head back out of the birth canal and up into the C-section incision. As
they worked, they began pushing harder and harder. Michelle was suddenly
feeling pressure, as promised, and the entire operating table was moving with
the force of each push. It was surprisingly barbaric the way they pushed and
squeezed and pulled inside her abdomen. The anesthesiologist fed another
syringe into Michelle's line. And
then, just as the pushing climaxed, the doctor pulled his right hand from the
incision and suddenly emerged with a huge head. It was covered in body fluids
and hair and suddenly a cry filled the room. The doctor grabbed it with both
hands and turned it straight around to face me, this crying head sticking from
a hole in my wife's abdomen. It was screaming. And it had my nose. At
that point, I lost it. I was completely unable to speak. I couldn't breathe. I
gasped a few times and choked. Michelle asked me what was happening. I tried to
answer but simply couldn't get any words to come out. The
doctor reached down and continued to pull this huge creature from Michelle's
abdomen. He was huge. I've watched quite a few births on TV and I've seen a lot
of photos of newborns. They're not usually this big. As he was pulled
completely from the wound, I finally managed to blurt out to Michelle in a
primitive gurgle, "He's huge!" Free
from his prenatal confines, several hands quickly reached in, clamped the
umbilical cord and cut it an inch or so from his body and he was passed,
overhand style, across the room to the awaiting pediatrician. "He's huge!" I
repeated to Michelle. His
color was beautiful, nice and pink, as the pediatrician wiped him clean.
Someone reached in and listened to his heart. Someone else began clearing his
nose and mouth with a long clear tube. He didn't like that and he snorted and
fussed. Michelle asked how he was. "You'll
see him in just a second," one of the nurses assured Michelle. "He's huge!" I
added. Soon
enough, they had him wrapped snuggly in a blanket and someone else ran him like
a football around the perimeter of the room and handed him off to me. His
weight filled my arms as I stared, wide eyed, at the bundle in my arms. I
leaned over and showed him to Michelle. "Do
you have a camera?" the anesthesiologist asked suddenly. I passed her my camera
from beneath the baby and she shot a few pictures as I tried my best to show
him off to Michelle. "I
didn't hear any film wind, did this thing work?" "It's
digital," I answered. "It'll
be on the web tonight," another voice cracked in. A
few pictures taken, and a small glass cart was wheeled up behind me. I passed
the baby back to the pediatrician and he was placed in the cart and suddenly
wheeled through the door. "Dad,
you go with baby," someone ordered. I
leaned over, kissed Michelle as best I could through the surgical mask, told
her I loved her and I'd see her soon, and I got up and ran down the hall to
catch up with the crew wheeling my son to the nursery. Downstairs
in the nursery, he was given the full head-to-toe inspection. Everything was
perfect. He was weighed and measured: 10 lbs, 1 oz, 22 inches long. Official
time of birth, 2:02pm on the day before Valentine's Day, February 13, 2001. He
is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen, and he is my son, Eastland
Benjamin Schamis. But
If I hadn't actually seen it happen, I'm not sure I'd believe you if you told
me this ten pound baby was once carried inside my wife. | ||